2014 Year in Review

 

To fill out the annual New Year’s survey and assess last year’s resolutions:

1. What did you do in 2014 that you’d never done before?
Moved to a new state with actual movers; threw a bridal shower; was a Maid of Honor; went through three pairs of shoes on Opening Day; saw Alton Brown live; did not buy a live Christmas tree; went to Puerto Rico; presented at a national conference; missed a flight;

2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions and will you make more for this year?
I did and yes!

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Nope not this year…I think 2015 will be a different story!

4. Did anyone close to you die?
My Aunt Joan passed away in April.

5. What countries did you visit?
Puerto Rico is a territory, but felt out of the country!

6. What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
Stamina and the body to run a half marathon. It is coming along!

7. What dates from 2014 will remain etched on your memory and why?
January 6th-Started at Miami of OH

July 30th-Matt’s surprise!

June 28th-Megan’s wedding

November 23rd-Bad News

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Running successful RA Selection processes!

9. What was your biggest failure?
Not getting my body baby ready

10. What was the best thing you bought?
Invitations to Matt’s party

11. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Matt, my co-workers and supervisor, my cousins, our friends

12. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
some of my students, some of my family

13. Where did most of your money go?
Bills and traveling….both worth it.

14. What did you get really, really excited about?
the new job, great speakers on campus, running the Half

15. What song will always remind you of 2014?
Shake it Off by Taylor Swift

16. Compared to this time last year are you:
i. happier or sadder? happier
ii. thinner or fatter? fatter
iii. richer or poorer? richer

17. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Reading…I loved my classes, but I wasn’t able to read for pleasure!

18. What do you wish you’d done less of?
worrying about things I can’t control

19. How will you be spending Christmas?
With the family

20. Did you fall in love in 2014?
I already was and still am….Matt is the love of my life and always will be.

21. How many one night stands?
None

22. What was your favorite tv program?
Grey’s and Scandal

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate at this time last year?
Not really

24. What was the best book you read?
The Bees, my books for class, Bad Feminist

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Didn’t really have one.

26. What did you want and get?
Motivation to run the Flying Pig Half

27. What did you want and not get?
A baby

28. What was your favorite film of this year?
Frozen!

29. What did you do on your birthday and how old were you?
I turned 32! Did Behind Closed Doors all day then went to dinner with a former student from W&J

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Staying healthier

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2012?
Business casual with athletic

32. What kept you sane?
Matt, my co-workers, Sarah, Meg and Kate

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Jennifer Lawrence is awesome

34. What political issue stirred you the most?
reproductive justice, healthcare

35. Who do you miss?
A lot of people

36. Who was the best new person you met?
All the new peeps at Miami!

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2014.
You can’t control the behavior of even the people you are closest to, so just take care of yourself.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:
I never miss a beat
I’m lighting up my feet
And that’s what they don’t see
That’s what they don’t see
I’m dancing on my own
I make the moves as I go
And that’s what they don’t know
That’s what they don’t know
But I keep cruising
Can’t stop, won’t stop grooving
It’s like I got this music
In my mind, saying it’s gonna be alright
Cause the players gonna play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate
Baby I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake
Shake it off
Heartbreakers gonna break, break, break
And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake
Baby I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake
Shake it off, Shake it off

Now for resolutions (Italics are 2014′s, then responses, then 2015 will be at the bottom):

2014 Resolutions:

1. Don’t beat myself up about weight loss. For the past two years, I have talked about losing weight and every year I beat myself up for not doing it. No more…just focus on being healthy. If the weight comes off while doing that, well great, but it’s not the focus.

I have done this..and I feel really good about it. It will be continued for 2015!

2. Integrate myself into the Miami community.

Doing this by advising F-Word, hanging out at the Women’s Center and going to events on campus!

3. Apply to present at a national conference.

I did and was successful! I presented with three other people “Providing Love and Labor to the Women’s Center” at the NWSA Conference in Puerto Rico this fall!

4. Pull off my plan for August.

It turned out to be in July, but it happened…surprised Matt with an early 40th birthday party!

2015 Resolutions:

1. Don’t beat myself up about weight loss. For the past two years, I have talked about losing weight and every year I beat myself up for not doing it. No more…just focus on being healthy. If the weight comes off while doing that, well great, but it’s not the focus.

2. Run a strong Flying Pig Half Marathon. The important part is that I finish.

3. Continue to focus on being a supportive family member.

4. Take my student group to the next level.

Here’s to a new year…I hope it is happy and healthy for all!

Thankful in 2014

It’s Thanksgiving time again! This has been one heck of a year with a lot of changes and a lot to be thankful for.

1. Always and forever, my husband. Even when he is grouchy, or hungry, or walks around with headphones in for approximately 12 hours a day, he is the best part of my life.

DSCN7160

2. My crazy family. We may fight like crazy and be emotional and do stupid stuff, but we love each other fiercely and I hope that will never change.

DSCN6870

3. The Bunn/Dravis/Dan/Beanblossom family. Without them, I wouldn’t have pulled off surprising Matt for an early 40th birthday surprise and I have loved to be part of their family.

4. Starting a new job and jumping right in. Miami was super welcoming in January and have continued to be.

5. Camp T for GLACUHO…met some awesome people and planned some awesome work for this year on the Professional Foundations committee

6. Meeting this munchkin and her parents. I love that Sarah makes sure I get baby time!

DSCN7386

7. Running a successful RA Selection process. I feel like I am still learning the ropes, but I have an awesome committee backing me up.

8. Meeting some fantastic graduate students and professional staff and helping them on their journeys to their next steps.

9. Team Miami…even if it resulted in a stress fracture, it got me back out running again!

10. Having a garden this year. We had an awesome crop and I can’t wait to grow things again!

DSCN7215

11. The lovely ladies who helped me plan Megan’s shower. The event was as lovely as them!

DSCN6674

12. 10 Year College Graduations-and getting to hang out with Brenda!

13. Full sized stoves and refrigerators…and storage spaces!

14. My sister’s beautiful wedding…we are happy to have Joe in the family!

15. Having our family and friends write cards to Matt for his birthday. The outpouring of love was pretty fantastic.

16. 12 hour car rides to hang out with my Grandma

17. Yuengling on top in Ohio!

18. Finding cool restaurants and breweries in Cincinnati

19. Being able to walk to work and uptown

20. Having the Raders only two hours away in Columbus aka random visits with Rader when I show up in Columbus

21. Ballet classes! I have loved getting back into dancing and will continue to do it as long as the class if offered!

22. The Cincinnati Zoo with Matt’s parents! Penguins, tigers, lions and giraffes!

23. Getting accepted to present at NWSA! Literally ran down the hall with joy!

24. Livestreaming the ConnColl commencement…tears as I watched some of my favorites graduate when I was 700 miles away!

25. Donating my hair to Pantene Beautiful Lengths

26. Getting a piece of Michelle’s artwork for my birthday!

27. Extracting honey with my boss

DSCN7303

28. Surprising Dad with a 60th surprise birthday party! So much love in one room…and food!

29. Karaoke!

30. F-WORD: The students have been amazing and I love that I get to be a radical feminist with them two nights out of the week.

DSCN7471

31. The annual anniversary photo:

www.rtjphoto.com

32. Going to Puerto Rico and hanging out with these amazing women:

DSCN7703

33. Seeing bell hooks speak for the NWSA keynote!

34. Father John Ferone…he makes me believe in the Catholic Church again.

35. My awesome Team Colleen. They work so hard and deserve so much more credit for what they do!

36. My fem theory doc class. I have loved turning that part of my brain on and I really hope I can continue it formally by being accepted into the SAHE doc program!

37. Smartwool socks

38. Flying Pig Half training and Kelsey signed up to run with me.

39. Going to church on Sunday which meant only one of our cars got totaled by a tree.

40. Being really happy with myself and the work I am doing. I am thankful for me. :)

DSCN7686

10 Years Out

I just read this post on A Practical Wedding (yes, still reading it, because yes, the content is awesome) and dropped my iPad to write this post.

“These days, the memory of those years is important. In many ways they were harder beyond measure than our current day to day. The biting cold, the leaky boots, the stress over making rent, the crazy bosses and job insecurity—those outrank being up at night with a cranky baby. But in other ways, in our younger searching years, there was an ease in being true to ourselves. The jokes came easier, the late nights watching movies were unquestioned, and we were closer to our dreams, if farther from our realities.”

I am going to my 10 year college reunion in 2 weeks. At my 5 year, my job was ending in 2 weeks, I was moving my fiance and I in with one of my best friends in July, and I had no idea where life would take us. All I wanted was to be back in the comfort of Dickinson, the people who shared my college life around me and be like the college students who I yelled at as part of my job.

I wish I had known. I wish I had been confident that everything would be fine. I always wonder what life would have been like if I had been strong enough to end things with Leigh right away. Or declared that theatre major sooner. Or applied to more than one grad school. Or heck, even picked a different thesis topic. Would I still be in Student Affairs? What if I had gone to law school? Would I even have succeeded?

I’m going to this reunion in such a better place. Finishing up the first 6 months of my dream job, starting doc classes in the Fall, married to the love of my life…I just feel more successful. Regardless of the fact that I still live in a residence hall. ;)

I have a core group of friends who have seen me change from my conservative roots to the very liberal feminist I am now. I think freshman me would be appalled at 14 years later me. I went to a reproductive justice conference? I went through Safe Zone training at two different schools? I call myself a FEMINIST? WHO AM I?

I know who I am. And that scared, no-confidence, freshmen? She grew…she needed all those experiences, painful as they were. They led her to this Colleen…the successful Student Affairs professional, the happy wife, the feminist activist.

So maybe? Maybe I wish I didn’t know…because I wouldn’t be here and this me.

Commencement Season

I am terrible at goodbyes. Like, awful. December was terrible as I said goodbye at Conn. I cried all the time. I cried so hard my last day at camp that I almost drove off the road. I would sit on the couch the week after Commencement, after all the stress from Give ‘n Go is done, and bawl with released tension and grief from my seniors being gone. Every time I see Kiaya, I start to tear up…and I have only had her for 5 months! And I work in a field where we have goodbyes built into the year.

Commencement season has always been bittersweet for me. I vacillate between joy that the stress of the school year is over, and the fact that I will need to say goodbye to students that I have grown close to over the year. Some of them I have only known for a year, others I have known since their first semester on campus.

DSCN5453Bridget, for example. :)

I’m struggling right now with the fact that I am not in Connecticut. I felt like this my first year not going back to Dickinson’s graduation, but honestly, I didn’t know anyone graduating so it was only bittersweet because I was missing the traditions.

DSCN2301I was lucky enough to have Elizabeth read a letter out loud for me at the Student Leadership Banquet this year. It was the first step in saying goodbye to my students every year and I didn’t want them to think I had forgotten them.

DSCN5301I want to be at Conn’s graduation. I want to say goodbye to my seniors. My newsfeed is filled with pictures of my happy students under white tents, flowers in their hair, barefoot, dancing, squeezing groups together, brightly colored dresses, pants, shoes…all of the things that define senior week at Conn. 

DSCN5544

It is my own fault I am not there. I chose to take this job, I chose not to spend the money to fly back this Spring. So it is my own fault my heart is breaking.

I still have a commencement ceremony to go to here. Graduate students that I have forged bonds with over the past 5 months will be hooded on Saturday afternoon, and I am privileged enough to be a guest at their ceremony. They have taught me new ways to supervise and nothing beats the thrill of one of them happily telling us that they accepted their dream job.

But four years ago, I welcomed this class onto Conn’s campus. I helped them with their roommate conflicts. I interviewed them for the RA position. I interviewed them to work in the Women’s Center. I stood on stage and yelled vagina with them. I taught them about social media. They taught me even more! And I am struggling with not being a part of their last week. I won’t get to sit in the front row and take a picture as they walk across the green. Or seek them out after the picnic for a picture of us together. I won’t have my phone ring throughout the afternoon for goodbyes as I drive the truck around for Give ‘n Go.

Instead, I will stream commencement from my couch. I will cry as I watch Kolton give his speech. And as each one of them walks across the grass. And then probably after as well, as I think about them finding their families and friends to say goodbye.

While I am 676 miles away in physical form, my heart is in Connecticut this weekend.

dear sister ( #dearsister )

Tags

, , ,

This post comes from an experience I had with the editor of the anthology dear sister: Letters from Survivors of Sexual Violence. Lisa Factora-Borchers worked for the Women’s Center at Miami and returned to campus last Thursday for an afternoon to spend time with folks interested in the issues surrounding sexual violence, perform a reading from the anthology, and sign books. I was struck by the sincerity and hope Lisa brought to an often depressing subject. As she explained how the book came about, inspired by a letter she wrote to someone who had just survived an assault, I thought how important it was to have others know about this book and hopefully the movement it can inspire. I decided to write my own #dearsister letter, and I hope you will join me on your own blog, or in a Facebook note, on your Tumblr, or even send to me so I can publish it here anonymously for you.

Writing this letter was difficult for me. It brought up strong emotions about things that have happened to me, and made me realize I need to protect myself when putting this out there. Much of my story is vague and that is purposeful. What is not vague is my support of those who work to end sexual violence, my own included. I hope you will join me in adding to this movement.

Dear Sister:

I want to tell you that I am here with you. That I hurt with you and breathe with you and hope with you. That there is light at the end of the tunnel. That when you learn to love yourself again, because you will, you will find you are able to love others again. That happiness is not a fairy tale. 

No one asks to be part of this sisterhood. But I will stand by your side as a survivor, but also as an ally. I will be your resource for other resources. I will be your shoulder to cry on and the arms to lift you up. I will rise with you against violence and sexism and racism and homophobia and the rest of hate in this world. 

One day, you will wake up, and there will be hope in your heart again. And until that day, my hope will be your buoy. Cling to me until you can rescue yourself and lift yourself from the waters of this despair. 

I want to tell you that it is okay to be angry. Both with yourself, the perpetrator, your friends who failed to protect you, your own confusion about what happened. Let that anger lift you up in a positive way to change. Not yourself, because remember, WHAT HAPPENED IS NOT YOUR FAULT, but the society that allowed your assault to happen. And remember that it is okay, to not be okay for awhile. 

Dear sister, keep breathing and know that there are people in this world who will send you the oxygen you need to keep on doing just that. 

20140324-153912.jpg

Making Our Apartment a Home

Well, we have been here for about two months and I think we are finally, finally settled in. All the boxes are unpacked, the plants are happy, the fish seem happy…there are even pictures on the wall! Let’s take a tour!

DSCN6463Living Room 1

DSCN6464Hallway leading to bathroom

DSCN6466 DSCN6467More Living Room

DSCN6465Bathroom

DSCN6468 DSCN6469 DSCN6471 DSCN6470Kitchen

DSCN6472 DSCN6473 DSCN6474 DSCN6475Office

DSCN6476 DSCN6477 DSCN6478 DSCN6479 DSCN6480Bedroom (Excuse the full laundry baskets!)

Work has been really good. I am loving my staff and the work we are doing. I have been so impressed with the professionalism of my staff and Sara nailed it when she said I would love to supervise grads and new professionals. I pulled my theory book off my shelf during a one on one yesterday. I haven’t done that EVER, which makes me ridiculously excited. Who’s the nerdy kid who is excited about applying to PhD programs? This girl!

I have also been working hard on my fitness. I signed up for a ballet class that I am taking every Sunday. I thought I would have a hard time remembering things, but it has been pretty easy to go back into the flow of barre work. Unfortunately, an extra 50 pounds since the last time I did barre work makes it a little less comfortable. 5th position? Harder to do with bigger thighs.

I met with my personal trainer on Wednesday and she gave me a strength workout to do that will supplement my Red Brick Run 5K training and ballet class.

20140301-164734.jpg

The bottom of that core list is planks and side planks, which I freakin’ hate. It was hard, but it felt damn good to do yesterday. Right now I am only doing one circuit of it, but I’m hoping to start to fit in 2-3 circuits as it gets easier.

I have also been rocking MyFitnessPal…something feels very different about this tracking. I don’t know if it is because I upped my calories from 1200 to 1400 so I don’t feel like I’m starving or I have just been really conscious of my food, or what, but it feels easy. I know we are going out tonight and I am probably going to eat something heavier and have a beer, but I also feel like I am really balanced about it. My journey isn’t going to be completely thrown off by fries tonight. Will I work a little bit harder in ballet tomorrow? Probably…but the extra calories tonight are not going to make me gain 5 pounds tomorrow. And to end, a workout selfie from last week:

20140301-163538.jpg

A Moving Nightmare

Moving, in general, sucks. No one likes to pack up their stuff, let alone give it to someone else to move across the state. Who do you trust? Would it be cheaper to rent a truck and drive it yourself? Who is going to help you load and unload? We were lucky enough to know there would be a moving reimbursement, so we decided to research moving companies.

I called about five moving companies, getting quotes from four of them. They were all incredibly helpful and very pushy. I thought the company we picked, that seemed incredibly helpful over the phone, would be perfect. What I didn’t do, was look for reviews online. This turned out to be a big mistake.

We packed all our belongings, preparing them in exactly the way we had been instructed:

20140125-173855.jpgBoxes were packed, furniture was secured, our suitcases filled. Pick up was scheduled for Friday, January 3rd. And then the snowstorm hit on the 2nd. After calling the company multiple times to find out when they were coming for pick-up, they told us they would arrive around 5pm on Saturday the 4th. This through our plans for me to start on Monday into disarray, so we got up that morning, went and had breakfast, and then I was going to be on the road to Altoona with Matt following after the truck was packed and on its way. As we packed the cars, the driver called and said they would be there at noon…fabulous! We decided they could load the truck and we would be on our way by 3pm.

That was wishful thinking. We were promised 3 people to load the truck, we got 2. One was there to lift things only, and didn’t know how to load the truck, so the guy doing the box inventory had to take a break every 5 minutes to teach the guy who was moving things how to put it on the truck. We told them, “We’d like to be on the road by 4pm.” I think they moved slower. We finally, FINALLY, got on the road by 6:30pm, after filling out paperwork that I could have had filled out and ready to be signed by the time they were done loading the truck. It meant I couldn’t finish cleaning the apartment and ended up leaving mud and salt everywhere…I felt so bad.

We were told we would get a phone call letting us know when they would show up. That took multiple phone calls to the company for them to figure out. They finally told us they would be showing up on Thursday the 9th. The first problem they had was they couldn’t get the truck into the parking lot. They finally got that figured out and Matt called me 20 minutes later to tell me they had made a mess of our stuff. When they opened the truck, this is what Matt found:

Back of Truck 2Our stuff was moved from the smaller truck it was loaded on and literally thrown into this truck. More pictures from the back of the truck. Note the fragile box crushed between two other boxes.

Back of Truck 5 Back of Truck 6 Back of Truck 8I came over when Matt called and I flipped out. Screamed and sobbed…my poor boss, who had come over to support me, saw Rage Colleen for the first time. Unfortunately, when we called the moving company to complain, they were beyond not helpful. As more and more things came off the truck, the angrier I became.

Wicker Box 1 A wicker box that we had had forever was destroyed. Side Table 5 One of our side tables was broken.Picture Frame Box 2 This is a box that held some of our artwork…it looks like it has been punched. Office Chair 2 Matt’s desk chair torn apart.Grandmother's Mirror 3 My grandmother’s antique hand mirror shattered. Folding Bookcase 4 A shelf on our folding bookshelf broken. Dent in Antique Desk 1 A dent on Matt’s great grandfather’s antique desk. Crushed Box 2 One of our boxes torn apart. Book Shelf 1 A bookshelf that looks like it was chewed on. 20140125-173935.jpg My sewing machine case. 20140125-174000.jpgMy Outstanding Attorney trophy.

There has been no redress from the moving company. They seem to have no ethic of care for their customers, no ethics in general. Learn from our mistake. Don’t ever use All State Van Lines for your moving needs unless you would like to see your items broken and the worst customer service you could imagine.

 

 

Beginning To Feel Like Home

We have been in Ohio for a week and I am finally feeling settled in. The first week at work was a whirlwind of meeting people, figuring out where things are, and dealing with the nightmare that is our moving company (post on that coming later). I am really enjoying work but I hadn’t left campus until Saturday when we went to Walmart. That was depressing and makes me want to plan my shopping strategically so I can drive to Target when I need things. It’s weird to not have one within 10 minutes…I feel like we have always been near a store, so I feel like I have to get used to a whole new set of products. I know, that sounds strange.
Now that our stuff is here, I feel like we actually live here…once we actually get pictures up on the walls, I’ll take some pictures and post them. We definitely had to repurpose some of the furniture we brought with us and incorporate the furniture that was already here. Although to be honest, I enjoy having a place to display our coffee table books. Our kitchen is still confusing…all of the upper cabinets are actual cabinets, but everything below the counter is drawers, which makes it really freaking hard to put our pots anywhere. Since we have a drop ceiling, we can’t hang our pot rack, so we are still improvising. It will be a happy day when every single box is unpacked!
I’m looking forward to pro staff training this week and getting to know my staff…they are awesome so far and I can’t wait to meet my grads to complete Team Colleen!

New Job, New Home, New Me

I just finished Day 3 of my brand new job at Miami University of Ohio…it has been awesome so far!

Back in December, I accepted a job as an Assistant Director of Residence Life at Miami University in Oxford, OH. It was an incredibly fast turnaround and the job has everything I was looking for in my next position: large institution, opportunity to supervise grads and professionals, the opportunity to get my doctorate and a focus on student development/learning.

I talked in my Thanksgiving post about feeling confident enough to step forward into this big change if it happened…and I carried that confidence through my interview and into the week of waiting after. I have never felt more calm throughout a process than I did with this one. It was truly like the stars aligned and led me to this place.

After that happened, the next week turned into a week of goodbyes and intense work to get everything done I wanted to do before I left. I cried. A LOT. Conn was an incredibly important part of my life and I will always value my experiences there. Saying goodbye to some of my students broke my heart…I’ve watched them grow from shy freshmen to confident student leaders and I was really sad that I was not going to see them finish out this year. And then saying goodbye to co-workers who have been like family to me was beyond painful. Darcie literally ran away from me so she wouldn’t have to say goodbye.

Sidenote: Sara Bareille’s song “Brave” just came on the People’s Choice Awards…I know it is popular, but it has been following me the past four days…it’s like my Conn family is reminding me that I can do this!

Needless to say, after Christmas, I went into major packing mode. My mom came up to help us and Kevin and Kels and the kids came down the same weekend to help and spend time with us. We were ready to go on New Year’s Day, when the stupid snowstorm hit and we were snowed in. So after planning to leave on Friday, the truck finally arrived on Saturday and the movers took 6 hours to pack the truck. 6 HOURS!! We were not pleased, but made it to Altoona at 1:30 in the morning, slept through the night, then got into the car to arrive in Oxford by 5pm.

Can I just tell you how awesome the people are here? My boss showed up with some other RDs to help us unload everything from the car, in the rain. They’ve offered to unload the truck when it finally gets here tomorrow! (Which they don’t need to do, since we are paying an exorbitant amount for people to do that)

I’m taking my first Spin class here on Friday…I am ready to get back on a bike and start to take care of myself better. I have been eating my feelings the past 3 weeks and it has not done good things for me. So time to take Resolution #1 to heart, and start to focus on health again. I’m excited to find out if I can teach here and really explore all the cool things the rec center has to offer.

See you soon!

2013 Year in Review

Even though I haven’t been blogging much, I couldn’t miss out on doing my Year in Review Survey!

To fill out the annual New Year’s survey and assess last year’s resolutions:

1. What did you do in 2013 that you’d never done before?
Flew to Kentucky for an interview (and fell in love with Kentucky Bourbon Barrel Ale again), participated in a flash mob, got to sit on the other side of the table as an interviewer at TPE, was a mentor at RD2B, did a Mud Run, made a tutu for my sister, bought a washer/dryer, saw Bare Naked Ladies live!, actually took the day off for my birthday and went to the beach, ran my fastest 5k, saw one of my students in an off-Broadway play, went to a non-Student Affairs conference (NWSA), became a certified Spinning Instructor, accepted my dream job at Miami University of Ohio, packed up our entire apartment in a week, hired actual movers

2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions and will you make more for this year?
I kept my first one…the others were more struggles!

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Corrie had Genevieve, Marci had Tabitha, Laura had Ava, Michelle had Andrew and Jill had Cameron! Lots of adorable babies this year!

4. Did anyone close to you die?
*knocks on wood* No, we were lucky this year!

5. What countries did you visit?
Stayed in the US this year!

6. What would you like to have in 2014 that you lacked in 2013?
A baby! And to be prepared to apply for a PhD program!

7. What dates from 2012 will remain etched on your memory and why?
February 14th-23rd-1 Billion Rising/V-Week/ Vagina Monologues

March 14th-20th-NASPA

April 27th-Gettin’ Muddy for Kids Mud Run

July 19th-BNL/Ben Folds/Guster concert

October 19th-Penguin 5k

October 16th-V-Men video launches

December 5th-Accepted my dream job!

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Getting a new job!

9. What was your biggest failure?
Not getting my body baby ready

10. What was the best thing you bought?
Camping site fees, gas for the car to visit people and my Spinning Certification

11. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Matt, my co-workers and supervisor, my cousins, our friends

12. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
some of my students

13. Where did most of your money go?
Bills and traveling….both worth it.

14. What did you get really, really excited about?
Camping, moving into our new apartment, the new job!

15. What song will always remind you of 2012?
“Brave” by Sara Bareilles

16. Compared to this time last year are you:
i. happier or sadder? happier
ii. thinner or fatter? fatter
iii. richer or poorer? richer

17. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Exercising-I’m still not on my game…I hope teaching Spinning will change that!

18. What do you wish you’d done less of?
worrying about things I can’t control

19. How will you be spending Christmas?
With the family

20. Did you fall in love in 2013?
I already was and still am….Matt is the love of my life and always will be.

21. How many one night stands?
None

22. What was your favorite tv program?
Grey’s and Scandal

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate at this time last year?
Not really

24. What was the best book you read?
Every Jennifer Haigh book I read, Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, Gulp by Mary Roach, War Brides and The Sisterhood by Helen Bryan, Cooked by Michael Pollan, Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Didn’t really have one.

26. What did you want and get?
A new job!

27. What did you want and not get?
A baby

28. What was your favorite film of this year?
I just saw Saving Mr. Banks and it was awesome!

29. What did you do on your birthday and how old were you?
I turned 31…Matt and I went to the beach, got sunburned, then went out to eat

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Staying healthier

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2012?
Business casual with athletic

32. What kept you sane?
Matt, my co-workers, Sarah, Meg and Kate

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
Jennifer Lawrence is awesome

34. What political issue stirred you the most?
reproductive justice, healthcare

35. Who do you miss?
A lot of people

36. Who was the best new person you met?
Meg! I am so glad she became part of the Conn staff!

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2013.
You can’t control everything. When you are confident in your self and your skills, the right next step will come to you.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:
Everybody’s been there,
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing,
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, just stop holding your tongue
Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Now for resolutions (Italics are 2013′s, then responses, then 2014 will be at the bottom):

2013 Resolutions:

 

 

2013 Resolutions:

1. Don’t beat myself up about weight loss. For the past two years, I have talked about losing weight and every year I beat myself up for not doing it. No more…just focus on being healthy. If the weight comes off while doing that, well great, but it’s not the focus.

I have done this..and I feel really good about it. It will be continued for 2014!

2. Focus on the job search and my professional development.

I definitely did this and it paid off!

3. Read 100 books in 2013…this seems like a super easy one, but it might not be! I’ll keep a separate page updated with the books I’ve read.

I think I am on 53…but that doesn’t include the articles/short stories/blog posts I have read over the course of the year as well.

4. Try one new recipe a week…I have so many recipes on Pinterest and in cookbooks and in Evernote, I need to start making some of them!

I completely forgot about this one! I did try some new recipes this year, but I don’t if it was on a weekly basis!

2014 Resolutions:

1. Don’t beat myself up about weight loss. For the past two years, I have talked about losing weight and every year I beat myself up for not doing it. No more…just focus on being healthy. If the weight comes off while doing that, well great, but it’s not the focus.

2. Integrate myself into the Miami community.

3. Apply to present at a National Conference.

4. Pull off my plan for August!

Here’s to a new year…I hope it is happy and healthy for all!

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 421 other followers